Low Self Esteem in Children

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Does your child's self esteem worry you? Copy our coaches' techniques for raising confidence in children

Low self esteem in children is worrying for you as a parent. Get your parents pack from our coaches and learn how they raise confidence in children at our workshops.

If your child is shy and avoids speaking to people it is really worrying as a parent. You know how important confidence, assertiveness and strong communication skills are for children. Their success at school and in life depend on these things - possibly more than their school results.

Look at these top tips for raising your child's confidence:

1. Encourage the best in them - consider encouraging them to focus on the things they do best. As parents we would know our children's good qualities so why not focus on

2. Unlock and build on their natural enthusiasm - one of our coaches had an experience with a friend's son that inspired this tip. In two years, the coach had only managed to get an occasional 'hello' from the boy. Then at a party, the two got talking and the conversation turned to the topic of animals. And was that ever this young man's passion! His eyes lit up as he waxed lyrical about the fast growing colony he insisted his grandparents have at their house. From being reluctant to engage, the boy's enthusiasm was sparked by talking about his animals. What an amazing transformation by tapping into his passion.

What is your child's passion? What inspires them? Get their eyes to light up and their confidence to fire through something that's close to their heart. Then build on this inspiration to develop their confidence and overcome shyness.

3. Give unconditional love - accept your child the way they are, regardless of their weaknesses, disabilities or temperament. Children need to feel secure. As their parent you are the guardian of their self-esteem.

4. A lesson from a mistake - there is a quote that says, 'you learn from your mistakes' and we believe in this quote. Sometimes, letting children make a mistake is more beneficial than jumping in and saying, "Oh don't worry, I'll help you!" By doing this, you are making them dependant on you. Therefore, a lesson learnt in life is a value earned for life!

5. Please don't compare - This is the worst thing a parent/carer can do to their child. For example, "Why can't you play football like Mike?" This will hurt them at heart and will constantly remind them of their weaknesses. Let your child know that you appreciate his/her uniqueness which will help their confidence level.

6. Be all ears - Children often feel that parents ignore their opinions. If a child is sad to leave a friend's house please value his feelings rather than saying, "Oh you'll be fine once you get inside the car" No! Make him comfortable by saying that you understand he/she is sad but next time you can invite the friend over to your house. This will tell them that you value their feelings and their desires.

This information is continued. We would love to send you a FREE Children's Confidence Boosting Pack, which includes fun activities for your child and positive parenting support for you. Get your copy now! Simply drop your name and email address in below and we will send it to you with our compliments

PS. Don't miss the pack. Take a small step now that may give you the information and activities your child needs to grow in confidence. We would love to be able to change their life as we have hundreds of others. Don't do nothing. Let us help.